I retired in June, 2017.
For the next year-and-a-half, I enjoyed working around our new home
every day: putting in a lawn, landscaping, building a garage [with Troy], and
just general ‘other’ stuff.
Then, I found myself watching the news for several hours
every morning – which led to feelings of depression. One day, I simply said to Debbie, “This has
to change!” A month later, I started to
drive for Lyft and have enjoyed it for five-and-a-half years. In July, I lost that job.
Since then I tried being a Spark driver, but it doesn’t
seem to be working for me. So, it seems
to be ‘transition time’. Deb is leaning
hard on me to just retire again.
The idea is not offensive to me. I’ve dreamed of being able to write
daily. I also have a ‘to-do’ list that I
never seem to be able to get around ‘to-doing’
😆.
If we do this, our lives will change rather
dramatically. The loss of income will
demand strict adherence to a budget!
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TRANSITIONS!
We all face them!
They tend to require focus and determination. Transitions bring rewards and sometimes
challenges.
o My
FIRST transition was leaving home in 1969, to live with my brother in
Philadelphia and work on a roofing crew!
I lived in his attic for three months, worked hard every day, made
decisions about the money I was making, and exercised some independence in
managing my time.
o My
SECOND transition was heading for Roberts Wesleyan College that fall to start
my undergraduate studies. This
introduced a whole new wave of novelties: cafeteria meals, living in a dormitory,
having a roommate, attending classes, studying, exams, papers, balancing social
life, cleaning bathrooms (a part-time job), and eventually working at UPS and
doing weekend night-watch to increase my income! [There was also a stint when I gave breaks at
Chili Plastics from 2:30-4:30 AM!!!!!]. 🙄
o My
THIRD transition was getting married in August, 1973 (after graduating). Debbie and I immediately moved to Wilmore,
Kentucky, where I was enrolled at Asbury Theological Seminary. A whole lot of good came with this
transition! J
· Enjoying my new wife!
· Seminary life!
· Our first apartment.
· Gathering furnishings.
· Classes, study, papers, exams – again!
· Working at UPS – again!
· We moved three times during those three years! A harbinger of things to come!
· My last two years I began ‘student-pastoring’ a small church in English, Indiana, on weekends!
o Then
came our FOURTH, huge transition in 1976!
Our bicentennial baby was born and Travis Wilson Haire became a huge part
of our lives! What fun that was!
o Our
FIFTH transition was moving to Harrison City, PA, and pastoring the Jeannette
Free Methodist Church. It was 1976. Travis was six months old. We lived in a 70’ mobile home behind the
church [The winters of ’76 & ’77 were brutally cold and snowy!] I made $100/week. The congregation
had just built a brand new sanctuary, but had divided in the process. They had an enormous debt of over $70,000 –
and about forty people! Yet before we
left – two years later – the numbers had doubled!
o Our
SIXTH transition was moving to McClellandtown, PA, in 1978. This ended up being a major period of change
since it was while here that Troy William Haire and Tracie Elizabeth Haire
joined our family! Debbie became a VERY
BUSY, young mother! McClellandtown was a
coal-patch-town. It was very small and
the congregation averaged around seventy people. We had two dogs while there: Rock, my coon-hound, and Chipoo, a fun little
Chihuahua/poodle mix. Again, significant
growth occurred during these four years.
o Our
SEVENTH transition set us up for a fairly long season in East Liverpool,
OH. I was appointed to the Oakland FMC
in 1982, at the age of thirty. Travis
started and finished school during our thirteen years at Oakland – lucky for a ‘PK’! I was driving to Pittsburgh 3-4 times/week to
attend classes at Pittsburgh Theological Seminary to finish my Master of Divinity
degree. During these years, the church
grew from seventy to over two-hundred. I
also acquired a Masters degree in Counseling at the Franciscan University of
Steubenville [full-time for two years while leading a growing church]. Debbie watched kids in our home and then when
Troy and Tracie began school – she worked as a teller at a credit union. These were rewarding, growing, busy, and
fascinating years! We travelled across Ohio following the sporting activities
of Troy and Tracie and the East Liverpool Christian School. Travis left home during this transition to
attend college.
o Our
EIGHTH transition included a major move away from the Pittsburgh Conference to
Spencerville, MD, where I became pastor of a small-but-stable church. I needed a rest after all the educational
pursuits and stress of leading a growing church! Travis quit school after one semester and
joined the Navy! After being enlisted
for a year-and-a-half, he ended up at the Naval Academy which was 26 miles from
our new home! He came to visit on lots
of weekends since we were just within the limits of his travel
restrictions! I think that helped him
survive the stresses of his ‘Plebe year’!
The church responded to our leadership and began to grow! However, a family crisis arose that caused us
to make one of the hardest decisions of our lives. I quit at the church mid-year and we moved
back to live on the farm with Deb’s folks.
We needed a loving environment to coddle us as we healed our
family! It was late fall, 1998. After a few weeks, friends provided an
apartment for us in Chester, WV. For
months we had no income. We managed to
buy each of our kids one gift for Christmas that year. When Travis came home, he took Troy and
Tracie out to buy a small Christmas tree and a few decorations. [All our furniture and belongings were stored
in the garage of the parsonage in Spencerville.] It was a hard time!
o Our
NINTH transition became an amazing blessing!
After months of being told that I was ‘over-qualified’ for jobs, we were
hired by a social-serving agency in Akron, OH, where we ran a licensed home for
behaviorally-challenged children in Summit County! They provided the home and a healthy
income! We attended the Cornerstone
Church where a couple we knew from Asbury were leading this growing congregation! Charlie Young had become Ohio Conference
Superintendent and Brenda was now leading the church (of over 400)! Within weeks, I was hired as a part-time
associate. By June, I became the Lead
Associate Pastor. During the next five
years, the church grew to well over 700!
It was an incredible time of learning, excitement, development and
financial recovery! Fruitful years! Troy and Tracie both launched their
independence during these years!
o Our
TENTH transition involved a painful departure from Cornerstone, but an
adventurous [and somewhat shocking] beginning in New Middletown, OH, where I
began leading Free Methodist Community Church!
After a rough start, the church responded wonderfully to our
leadership! Within three years the
growth began, taking us from a congregation of seventy to eventually bouncing
over two hundred! Many new
converts! Exciting and innovative
programs and involvement! Debbie
thoroughly enjoyed her job of working with Cindy Marchese in the Springfield Local
School District! We lived in the
parsonage on the church property from June, 2003, until June, 2012. Tracie and Troy were each married during this
season: 2005 and 2012 respectively. We
welcomed Jon Kerstetter and Missy Noel to our family! Tracie and Jon also gave us two wonderful
grandchildren during this time: Rylie
Grace (2007) and Coltin Eugene (2009). J
o Our
ELEVENTH transition was undoubtedly our BIGGEST! In late August, 2012, we left for three years
in the city of Changchun, Jilin Province, People’s Republic of China! We taught English at the Changchun University
of Science and Technology! I don’t dare
start talking about this experience here; it deserves a book [yet to be
written]. 😉
o Transition
number TWELVE was HARD! Upon returning
to America, we had no home, no income, no cars, and we were struggling with
reverse culture shock! I, particularly,
felt lost! We lived in a trailer at the
farm in Enon Valley for over a year – courtesy of Debbie’s brother, Walt (and
his wife, Lyn). I was appointed back to
the Pittsburgh Conference to serve the Kittanning, PA FMC as a part-time-commuting
pastor. I began in September, 2015. In
October, Travis died! We were devastated! Then, on Christmas night, Deb’s dad – Ken Whippo
– died! We were overwhelmed with
grief! In spite of these losses, we
secured a lot at Heron Woods in 2016, bought a manufactured home and had it
placed on the lot. It’s our home to the
current day! I retired in June, 2017 –
being a commuting pastor just wasn’t working - although the church had been
growing. A year-and-a-half later, I
began to work for Lyft.
o And
now we’re facing transition THIRTEEN! I
hope it’s not unlucky! 😂
It will certainly have its challenges,
especially in the area of finances.
However, the ONE who has accompanied us all along the way, will not
leave us! Perhaps He has a plan that we
can’t see yet? No one knows what
tomorrow holds. We’ll cling to Him and
take joy from the journey! You do the
same!