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Showing posts with label Ed Andrade. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ed Andrade. Show all posts

Thursday, September 4, 2025

BROTHERS FROM DIFFERENT MOTHERS

Back in 1987, I finally received my Master of Divinity degree [which I began in 1973]. I had discerned some giftings in the area of counseling and wanted to pursue a further degree to qualify me for this work. 

After applying for the Master of Social Work at the University of Pittsburgh, I was told that due to an unusually large number of applicants, I was not accepted. They strongly encouraged me to apply the next year with assurances that I would be accepted. 

However, waiting a year seemed inordinate to me, so I applied - and was accepted - for studying toward the Master of Arts in Counseling at the Franciscan University of Steubenville. If you don't know, Franciscan University is a charismatic Catholic university.

I was placed in a small class of about twenty students for this two-year course of study. I travelled from East Liverpool, OH, where I was leading a growing church. Our family was young - all three T's under the age of 12 when I started at Franciscan.

Of course, all of my classmates and professors were Roman Catholic. 

Since I was attending full-time, it was an immersion in my studies and the campus culture. I quickly made friends from my class - one of whom became a very close friend - Ed Andrade. He invited me to attend the noon mass with him and assured me that I would be welcome. I was eager to do so.

The daily mass was less than an hour and the sanctuary was packed every day! It was awkward because at the Eucharist, people had to squeeze past me to participate. [I later learned to go forward and simply ask for a blessing instead of receiving the Eucharist.] The worship experience was quite different from what I led or had participated in thus far in my life. However, the singing was WONDERFUL!

One day, when the priest lifted up the cup during communion, the entire congregation leapt to their feet and began praying or singing out loud! I was shocked! This had never happened before! I was rapt with attention as I listened. My friend, Ed, was praying out loud! My friend, Deanna, was singing beautifully in the Spirit! This whole experience lasted about a minute or two and then everyone sat down and the mass continued. I was full of questions!

To my surprise, when I began asking about it after the mass, no one seemed to think much of it. It was clearly directed by the Holy Spirit as everyone stood without being directed to. Each person seemed focused on praising God in the way that seemed most natural to them! I was mesmerized!

The students were very pro-life and I participated in several protest events with the students to try to save the lives of preborn children!  I've always had an activist attitude and it was allowed to flourish in this environment!

During the summer they put up huge tents and had evangelistic services on campus. They were filled to capacity. The music was remarkable and the singing was enthusiastic. The preaching was less formal and the people were very responsive! Many - including me - stayed for nearly an hour afterward listening as the worship team continued to play and worship!

Our class included a Hispanic priest and me - a protestant pastor. Many of our learning experiences were small-group oriented, so we became very close very quickly. I still communicate with some of my class members. I always felt respected in spite of my protestant orientation! 

I was wrestling at this stage with whether to launch into the work of counseling - which had become more than a possibility. Ed and I actually made an arrangement with one of our professors to use her office in Toronto, Ohio to take on some clients. We talked a great deal about opening a counseling office together upon our graduation.

Obviously, I continued in ministry and found ways to use my newly acquired training and experience to support the ministry and serve the community!

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This opportunity to be part of a Roman Catholic community showed me a depth of commitment and zeal for the Lord that was deeply satisfying, encouraging and affirming. I never felt denigrated - only accepted! I value this time and experience.

Throughout my forty-three years of ministry I always participated in ecumenical efforts in the communities where I served. While in East Liverpool [for thirteen years] I became very close friends with the priest at St. Aloysius. We enjoyed a warm, friendly and affirming relationship. This was unusual because quite often priests don't feel comfortable or welcome in these groups!

Again, while serving [nine years] in New Middletown, OH, I became very friendly with the priest of the parish cattycorner from the Free Methodist Church. I occasionally attended their Saturday evening mass to simply be in an environment where I had no responsibility and could just worship freely!

I find the drama of the catholic service to be very meaningful. Although I don't always know when to stand and sit or know the words to all of their responses, I see God at work in their worship and welcome them as brothers and sisters in Christ.

My friend, Ed, and I had to quietly agree to simply not discuss certain topics because we were each deeply invested in our respective views. However, we forged a deep friendship that focused on our common love for Christ and deep appreciation for all that He had done for each of us! 

One Sunday night he and Holly [his wife] visited on a Sunday afternoon and we invited them to attend our evening service. In that service - due to my comfort with Ed and knowledge of his deep faith in Christ - I spontaneously invited him to lead us in prayer! He gave a wonderful prayer, but later informed me that it had shocked and stressed him to do so! 😊 We had a good laugh about it!

Ed and I gradually drifted apart, largely because of distance; he lived in Florida. He went to Heaven this past year and I deeply regret that we didn't sustain our friendship after leaving Franciscan! Losing him as a close friend was clearly to my detriment! But, I have the assurance that we will resume that friendship in the future! 😉

Saturday, March 8, 2025

THE HARDEST PART OF GROWING OLD

I recently wrote about my years of leading the Oakland Free Methodist Church.  They were stressful years for many reasons.  The pursuit of my educational goals was one of those reasons.  After finally completing my Master of Divinity degree, I decided to go a big step further to acquire a master's degree in counseling.  I was accepted at the Franciscan University of Steubenville and began attending classes in the fall of 1990.

Our class was relatively small with perhaps twenty students - almost all of which were considerably younger than me. Attending a charismatic Catholic University was a stretch for me.  No one there had ever heard of the Free Methodist Church.  Making connections was a challenge. 

However, this one fellow and I clicked.  His name was Ed Andrade.  He was a handsome, charming, friendly guy who immediately accepted me and became my friend!  Ed was a 'people person' to the 'Nth' degree.  Everybody loved and admired him.  His primary gifts were in loving and accepting people and doing all that he could do to move them along on their journey.  

Ed immediately gave me a 'comfort zone' from which to operate. I went by Harold in those days; I loved the way Ed said my name, somehow he managed to stick a 'w' into it!  😉  My other classmates were also friendly and accepting of me. I became close to several of them as well, and they made my journey quite enjoyable.

A big part of our bond emerged from our common love for God and desire to be godly men!  I felt that - in Ed - I had found a truly godly brother!  I loved every minute that we had together.  I was in their apartment many times during those two years.  

Ed and I deepened our friendship by getting our spouses together also.  They came to our home in East Liverpool several times.  Our kids were young teens about that time.  Ed and Holly were expecting their first.  We socialized on a number of occasions and even attended Kolbe's christening.  

I remember a Sunday that Ed and Holly came to visit us in the afternoon.  When it came time for me to head to church for our evening service, we invited them to come along.  They did.  At the end of the service, I introduced Ed and invited him to give the closing prayer for our service.  In the Free Methodist Church, we are considerably less formal than you would find in a Catholic Church.  I think I shook Ed with my request, but he stood and offered a beautiful prayer from his heart - which was the only way he knew to pray!

For a while, we shared office space with one of our professors as each of us considered opening a counseling office.  Ed's skills were matched to his ability to make quick, deep connections with people!  

But, after our graduation our paths took us in different directions.  In 1995, Debbie and I moved our family to Maryland for several years.  Ed and Holly grew their family and eventually ended up living in Florida.  

One of the deep regrets of my life will always be that I didn't cling to this friendship!  Ed had become a true Christian brother and had helped me negotiate those challenging years.  

All of my classmates and several of my professors encouraged and helped me during that span of two years.  I was struggling with my call to ministry and seriously considering other avenues to pursue.  My depressive experiences were peaking during this time and Franciscan University became a nurturing and accepting environment for me.  I will be forever grateful for the small group interactions, the lunchtime dialogues, the encouragement received from several of our professors and the rich experience of sharing the mass with my new friends!  

Thank you to all of you for accepting me and befriending me!  My life's journey has been deeply enriched by your impact!

I received news this morning that my dear friend, Ed Andrade, has passed into the everlasting arms of Jesus!  My sadness is beyond describing!  My regret over not maintaining this friendship will travel with me!  Friendships like Ed and I enjoyed are rare.  I should have recognized that and worked harder at staying connected.  I would have been richer for it!  My tears flow freely and my sadness for Ed's family is overwhelming!  This was a good, good man!  

But the comfort we have as followers of Christ is the knowledge that we shall be together again - FOR ALL ETERNITY!  

May God be forever praised and may Holly and Ed's beautiful family be comforted by the Holy Spirit during these hard, hard days.