At our annual session of the Harvest Conference (Free Methodist Church), our new bishop, Kaye Kolde painfully acknowledged that our American membership has dropped from 99,000 in 2015, to 62,000 in 2022. Her acknowledgement pointed out that when we look at our world today, we have to recognize that many people are not 'unchurched', but 'formerly churched'.
This leaves us wondering: Why the exodus from the church?
There are two primary reasons why people bail out and leave the faith.
I. God doesn’t conform to our
expectations. We want a God that we can
control. Many of us want faith to be a
power that moves God in a direction that we prescribe. We want faith to be a code that unlocks the
door to God’s unlimited resources – so that we can use them at our
discretion. Essentially, we want faith
to be a way for us to get what we want from God.
This
attitude is especially prevalent in American culture where we are used to
getting our own way. When God doesn’t
cooperate with us the way we think He should we tend to give up on
Him! We use the spoiled logic that if
God doesn’t give us what we want, then He must not really be good and He must
not really love me.
How do we arrive at these unbiblical
conclusions? How can we become so
distanced from the biblical concept of a sovereign God. God is God and there is no other.
We must get our thinking and beliefs right
about God. There is no better way to do
that than by getting involved in a good, thorough Bible study with a godly,
reliable teacher. We must also engage
our logic and reasoning capacity. Think
about it. If God can be manipulated and
controlled by me – then who is really god?
If we would simply think seriously for a moment, we would all realize
that we want a God who operates on a different level than we do.
Isaiah 55:8-9 “For my thoughts are
not your thoughts,
neither are your ways
my ways,”
declares the LORD.
“As the heavens are
higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher
than your ways
and my thoughts than
your thoughts.
This is the kind of a God that we want in control of the universe and in control
of my life. Especially when we know that he is good and loving and cares for
us.
II. The second main reason
that people leave their beliefs in God is that He allows bad things to happen
in their lives. To be blunt, we become
disappointed with God and even angry with Him because He fails to protect us
from evil people, things, or circumstances.
Unexplainable
tragedy tends to undermine our faith. Painful
or adverse circumstances don’t fit our understanding of the character of God or
the Christian faith. We ask: “How could
a good God allow this to happen? Why
didn’t He stop it?”
Let’s take a closer look at this:
A
father is carrying a four-year-old into a doctor’s office to receive a tetanus
shot. When the doctor pulls out the
needle, ask him if his father loves him.
In that moment, he will have doubts.
But ask him after some years pass.
He will have a completely different perspective. He will know that his father showed his love
by caring enough to protect his son’s health.
Just as
a child cannot correctly judge his parent’s character based upon one scary trip
to the doctor, so we cannot draw conclusions about God’s goodness based upon
the immediate circumstances of life.
Judging
the significance of current events can only be justly done by examining them in
the context of a lifetime. Many of us
have a hard time seeing past our immediate surroundings. If God doesn’t answer our prayer immediately,
we wonder if He exists. We begin to lose
confidence in our belief that God loves and cares for us.
Here’s the key point: Authentic
faith looks at the whole picture!
Consider a couple of biblical examples:
- Joseph
spent 15 years as a slave in Egypt
after his brothers sold him to a traveling caravan. Yet his “tragedy” was part of a beautiful
tapestry that God was weaving behind the scenes to save an entire region from
famine!
- Then
there was Moses, who spent 40 years in the wilderness before God sent him back
to Egypt
– freeing a nation from slavery and unfolding a wonderful purpose in his
seemingly purposeless existence.
We must
get our theology right! God has not
promised to keep bad things from happening to us. God has not promised to heal every
illness. He has not promised to reverse
the consequences of sin.
Yet
there are occasions when God intervenes and does all of these things. Why?
Because He is a good God who loves to give good gifts to His
children.
But
these are not promises. He is under no
obligation. The fact that divorce occurs
and people die and plans don’t work out is no reflection on the goodness or the
presence of our heavenly Father.
Just
look at the Apostles. They were
certainly men of great faith. Yet their
lives were not free of difficulty; all
of them but one, died as martyrs!!!! God
didn’t always intervene to save them.
But an answer of “no” did not undermine their faith. They didn’t have to get everything they
wanted to keep their faith intact. Their
faith was grounded in Jesus and His resurrection – not on how their lives went
or what happened to them.
I can
almost hear you thinking. But what are
we to do when tough times come? How are
we to handle the unexplainable tragedies that occur in our lives? What should our response be when it feels
like God has let us down or abandoned us?
Good questions!
The
answer to these questions is also found in some key verses of the book of
Hebrews.
4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to
sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every
way, just as we are—yet was without sin. Let us then approach the
throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to
help us in our time of need.
Here’s the best news you’re going to hear
today. Because you have Jesus as your
High Priest, you can draw near to God with confidence! Some might say, “Confidence in what? I already know that He may not give me what I
want. He might say no to my
prayers. How can I ask for anything with
confidence?”
But you
can have confidence because God will always give you two things that are
critical in your times of need.
The first thing He will give you is mercy. Our Savior, Jesus, knows far more about what
you are experiencing than you may think.
Jesus is able to enter into your pain and understand how you feel
because he also knew:
Temptation. He experienced temptation at the hand of
Satan himself.
Rejection. He was rejected by both friends and family
members.
Failure. He saw everything He had lived for and worked
for crumble around Him.
Fear. In the Garden of Gethsemane,
He spent an entire night dreading the events of the next day.
Abandonment. His friends ran away when He needed them
most.
Loneliness. He even faced death alone.
Jesus
understands your pain and/or sorrow. You
can come boldly to Him with total transparency and openness, confident that He
will never mock or ridicule you. He is a
mercy-giving God because He knows from experience what it is like to need
mercy. Mercy is the assurance that God
will never allow the pressures or heartbreaks of life to overwhelm you. He will ALWAYS be there to help or carry you!
The second
thing He will give you is grace. Grace in this context
means the strength to endure or the ability to carry on. Remember, He has not promised to deliver you
from your circumstances; but He has
promised to deliver you through them.
You can ask Him to change your circumstances, but we’ve already stated
that God rarely intervenes to do so.
However, He has promised to give you the grace to endure in the
meantime.
Even
the great Apostle Paul experienced this painful reality. In II Corinthians 12 he tells about what
seems to be a physical problem that had plagued him for many years. Now this is a man who had the spiritual gift
of healing, but he struggled with a personal malady. He tells us that he asked God three times to
deliver him from this problem. Each time
God said no. Paul accepted his
consequences and came to realize that there was a reason for God’s
unwillingness to heal him. It was to
keep him humble. He was a man who had
experienced phenomenal spiritual privileges – including a supernatural glimpse
into heaven where “He heard inexpressible
things, things that man is not permitted to tell.” (12:4).
Anyone experiencing this kind of privilege would certainly be vulnerable
to spiritual pride. Consequently, God
left this godly man – who had the gift of healing others – with a physical
malady to keep him appropriately humble and to remind him of his dependence on
God. God’s actual answer to Paul on his
third request was: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in
weakness.” (12:9).
So there it is – the evidence that you can
trust God with every area of your life!
Let’s review it:
1)
Authentic
faith is properly grounded in Christ!
2)
Authentic
faith recognizes the sovereignty of God.
3)
Authentic
faith looks at the whole picture.
4)
Authentic
faith anticipates the mercy and grace of
God when the going gets tough!