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Saturday, April 29, 2023

NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT THIS

It’s a relatively obscure passage tacked on to the end of II Samuel 12. 

What’s REALLY important is what fills the preceding vignettes:

·         Chapter 11 – David stays home from the battles of Judah [against the Ammonites] and ends up sinning with Bathsheba!

·         She becomes pregnant!

·         David conspires to have her husband come home from the battlefield and sleep with her – but the plan fails!

·         So, David conspires again by ordering Joab to put Uriah [her husband] in the thick of the battle and then withdraw – leaving him to die!

·         Joab follows David’s orders and Uriah dies in battle; however, eighteen others also die with him!

·         David brings Bathsheba to the palace and takes her as his wife.

·         Chapter 12 – God sent Nathan the prophet to David with a story about a wealthy man who takes his neighbor’s pet lamb and butchers it for guests that have come to visit! 

·         David becomes angry with the injustice of this story! 

·         Nathan pronounces the judgment: “Thou art the man!” referring to David taking Uriah’s wife!

·         David realizes that he has sinned against God!  Through Nathan, God announces a sad reality:  “you have given occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme…”

·         God then announces through Nathan that Bathsheba’s child will die!

·         David fasts and prays, but the child does die!

Then comes our relatively obscure passage.

All this time, Joab – David’s military commander – has been battling the Ammonites.  He has them ALMOST DEFEATED!  He sends a message to David:

I’m fighting at Rabbah, and I’ve just captured the city’s water supply. Hurry and get the rest of the troops together and set up camp here at the city and complete the capture yourself. Otherwise, I’ll capture it and get all the credit instead of you.”

David is so distracted!  He’s lost his sense of mission and obedience to God!  He never should have stayed home from the battle!  All his pain and future misery could have been avoided – if he had just stayed focused!  There’s mockery in Joab’s message!  He – of all people – knows how far David has fallen!  Yet, in his dedication, he still honors David! 

David has sown seeds of adultery and murder and those seeds will – unfortunately – grow to fruition very quickly!  In the next chapter, one of David’s sons rapes his own sister!  Further down the path, David’s sons will scheme against and kill one another!  All because of the seeds David planted in his own life! 

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Almighty and Ever-Watching God,

We can never allow ourselves to stray from Your ways!  We don’t want to plant seeds of destruction in our family!  Temptations are a part of life!  They’re real!  They often have to do with sex, power, and greed!  We must be ever on the alert!  We must not give in to temptation!  We must stay focused and determined and faithful!  We want to finish well and preserve the integrity of our family for future generations! 

Help us!  Oh, God, we need Your daily help!

Amen!

LOOKING BEHIND THE CURTAIN OF DIMENTIA

Imagine not being able to remember who you are!  Or how to pack for a trip.  Or to be super-focused on what the plan for the day is.  To be unable to remember how to do the laundry or cook.  Imagine crying out in the pain of this reality many times every day!  Imagine longing every day to go back and live in the place of your childhood – even though it’s not possible to do so.  Imagine becoming so disconnected that you no longer care about your closest family and friends.  Imagine the mental chaos of not being able to remember key events and people of your life! 

This is the reality for many people today who are struggling with various forms of dementia. 

Now imagine being the sole care-giver for this person.  Day in and day out, you have to deal with their confusion, impatience and anger.  They are totally dependent on you for everything.  You have to do all the cooking, cleaning, outdoor maintenance, shopping and laundry.  You can’t leave them alone, so they have to accompany you everywhere you go!  You may have to help them dress or with personal hygiene.  You get no respite from this scenario!  Imagine the exhaustion and discouragement that accompanies you in this seemingly never-ending scenario.  Yet this is the person you stood and exchanged vows with many years earlier!  You’ve raised a family together, travelled together, worked together, and vacationed together for many years!  In the midst of your weariness, you’re determined to stay faithful and take care of them – even though, at times, they cuss you and may even try to strike out at you.  Your love carries you from one weary day to the next! 

This also is the reality for many people today who are living with a spouse (or relative) who is dealing with the ravages of dementia! 

From my limited understanding, family history makes certain of us more vulnerable to this fate than others.  Imagine growing older with the fear that someday you may be a burden to those you love the most!  Imagine the fear that you face when you can’t remember a name or fumble to recall a password.  Is this the beginning?  What safeguards can you take to protect your loved ones and provide for your future care?  It’s a frightening proposition!  No one wants to be a burden to their spouse and family! 

There are some ways that we can support and help in situations like these:

1)      We can pray for them!  Put them on our daily prayer list because their struggles are daily!  Call on God to renew the mind of the one struggling with dementia!  Call on God to give energy and patience to the caregiver(s).  Pray for those doing research in the areas of Alzheimer’s and dementia!  Pray for a breakthrough!

2)      Carry in a meal once-a-week!  Stay for a few minutes to set it up and encourage them.  Even sit and eat WITH them and pray over the meal asking God to bless them and help them in their daily struggle!

3)      Respite for the care-giver is SO ESSENTIAL!  They never get a break!  It doesn’t have to be a whole day!  Could you just sit with the patient for two hours?  Long enough to go and get a haircut?  Long enough to play a round of golf?  Two or three hours to allow them to go and do whatever they want without guilt or worry!  Can you rally a few other family members, church friends, or others to make this happen several times a week?

4)      Stay in contact with the couple (family).  “I’m going to Aldi’s today, can I pick up anything for you?”  “Joe and I are making a Walmart run; we’ll be going right by your house – what can we get for you?”  “Our kids are off school for the summer and would like to cut your grass for you!”  You could add so much value to these lives by just caring enough to call several times a week! 

5)   "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”  Luke 6:31