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Tuesday, January 29, 2019

NEED A LYFT?

I kept pretty busy for the first fifteen months of my retirement, but then I started to feel some boredom.  I would occasionally wake up with no distinct plan for the day.  My consumption of television news began to grow.  I felt a drag on my motivation.  Some days I was accomplishing very little.
  • "It's too cold to work outside today."
  • "I don't want to waste the propane to heat the garage."
  • "I'll just do some reading and sorting today."
I considered looking for a part time job, but held back because I don't want to be tied down.  

Then I got online to see what kinds of part time jobs were available.  I considered Dollar General, WalMart, and Chick-Fil-A...but just wasn't motivated to move on any of them.

Then, I came across two ideas that captured my attention.  
  1. teaching English as a second language online, and
  2. being a Lyft driver.
I'm moving forward with each of these, but pursued the Lyft driver position first.  I got as far as their request to do a background search - and stopped.  For several months they pursued me to continue the application via texts.  I still kept the 'pause button' on.  

In early December they tempted me with a $400 bonus if I continued and gave one ride by December 20.  I immediately told them to begin the background search.  I submitted all of the required documentation - which was promptly accepted.  The background search took some time.  

On December 24, I was approved to drive.  I spent the full morning online doing all of their company training tutorials.  I was very impressed with the training materials and felt fully equipped to begin driving.

I picked up my first rider on South Avenue in Youngstown and took him home from the grocery store.  It was one mile and I made a little less than three dollars.  :-)  

After giving a few more rides (on Christmas Eve) I headed home happy - and $30 richer!  

Right after Christmas I received a text to all Pennsylvania drivers that beginning in 2019, we had to have a 2004 vehicle or newer;  I was driving a 2003.  :-(

I gave a bunch more rides that week and then quit driving on New Year's Eve.  Bummer!

I immediately began looking for a 2005 Camry, figuring I would be able to drive it for at least two years.  I found one and bought it.  After waiting for the title, getting some repairs, getting it licensed and inspected, I was approved to drive again!  Woo Hoo!  I pushed to get my 50th ride in before we left for vacation, because it qualifies me for a bonus!  [Lyft is big into bonuses for drivers!]

I love my new job!  I can drive when I want, as long as I want.  I do my own scheduling.  I get paid every Tuesday - straight into my bank account!  I'm doing research into how I'll be affected by taxes and am trying to calculate that against my expenses.  I've clearly got a lot to learn.  

I've found the company to be very helpful and cooperative.  They even gave me the $400 bonus, even though I missed the deadline by a few days!  :-)  

I'm meeting new people every time I drive.  All are nice and some are happy to talk while we ride together.  I've gotten some tips - some in cash and some online.  Tips are all mine!  My longest ride so far was from Poland, OH to Cleveland!  That was nice!  

I feel useful.  I'm providing a service to the community.  Many people without cars use Lyft (and other ride-sharing services) to do their shopping as well as getting to and from work!  I get to provide a cheerful greeting and a piece of candy to lots of people.  Hopefully, I can be a bright spot in their day!  I've had people of many kinds in my car.  I've heard languages I couldn't decipher.  Some people hop in front with me - I like that.  Others choose to ride in the back seat.  

The Lyft App for drivers is comprehensive and provides all of my directions.  I still make occasional wrong turns, but by-and-large, it's easy!  I'm actually excited to get home from vacation and start driving again!  

If you're interested in driving for Lyft, please use my referral code in the process (or contact me).  You'll get a bigger bonus if you go through me than if you go directly to their website;  and, of course, I'll get a bonus too!  My code:  HAROLD88049

If you have questions or want to talk more about it, contact me:
halinasia@psmail.net
(724) 944-3881
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HAVING A HEART FOR GOD!

[I was privileged to give this message at an English/Chinese church while teaching in China.  I have left tis context in place.  It was given on June 8, 2014.]

Psalm 119:32 (NKJV)
I will run the course of Your commandments, for You shall enlarge my heart.

California Chrome is a racehorse that set the thoroughbred horse-racing world on fire this year.  The story of this horse will inevitably be made into a movie.  California Chrome – with the running of New York’s Belmont Stakes in early June (2014) – failed in his attempt at the Triple Crown.  So, the trophy will be packed away for a future hope and a future horse.

Having lived for three years in the state of Kentucky, we were exposed to the verdant, gated communities of thoroughbred race horses.  The manicured farms set against the rolling hills of Kentucky stand out for their immaculate white fences and majestic animals.  In 2010, a movie emerged about one of those horses. 

If you don’t know the background, Secretariat (also known as Big Red) was a large horse that is thought by many to be the greatest race-horse to ever live.  In 1973, the summer Debbie and I were married, Secretariat won what is called the Triple-Crown of thoroughbred racing:  The Kentucky Derby, The Preakness Stakes, and The Belmont Stakes. 

Secretariat was the ninth horse to win the Triple Crown.  At the time Secretariat won the Triple Crown, it hadn’t been done for 25 years!  Since Secretariat’s win, two other horses have won the Triple-Crown:  Seattle Slew in 1977, and Affirmed in 1978.  We’ve been waiting forty-one years for another winner!

In The Kentucky Derby, Secretariat ran each quarter-mile segment faster than the one before it. The successive quarter-mile times were 25 1/5, 24, 23 4/5, 23 2/5, and 23. This means he was still accelerating as of the final quarter-mile of the race!

After winning the Kentucky Derby (1 1/4 mile), and The Preakness, many felt that he would lose in The Belmont since it was 1 1/2 mile.  

Only five horses ran The Belmont Stakes that year.  Three were considered non-contenders.  Secretariat was favored, but some still wondered if Sham might win this longer race;  Sham had finished second at The Kentucky Derby and at The Preakness Stakes. 

Secretariat was noted for pressing against the back of the gate at the start of a race.  Consequently, he was noted for being the last horse out of the gate.  Nearly every race he ran was a come from last place to win!  He was a very exciting horse to watch! 

However, at The Belmont Stakes, he and Sham took the lead together and ran side-by-side – a sixteenth of a mile ahead of the other three horses.  After running for three quarters of a mile, Sham began to tire – dropping back to eventually finish last.  Secretariat astonished spectators by continuing the fast pace and opening up a larger and larger margin on the field. Viewers heard the wonder in CBS Television announcer Chic Anderson's voice as he described the horse's pace: "Secretariat is widening now!  He is moving like a tremendous machine!" 

In the stretch, Secretariat opened a 1/16 mile lead on the rest of the field. At the finish, he won by 31 lengths (breaking the margin-of-victory record set by Triple Crown winner Count Fleet, who won by 25 lengths) and ran the fastest 1½ miles on dirt in history, 2:24 flat, which broke the stakes record by more than 2 seconds. This works out to a speed of 37.5 mph for his entire performance. Secretariat's world record still stands, and in fact, no other horse has ever broken 2:25 for 1½ miles on dirt.

Earlier, I read Psalm 119:32, “I will run the course of Your commandments, for You shall enlarge my heart.” 

When we cooperate with God, He grows our heart!  [You might want to read that verse and comment again]

I have certainly experienced this to be true and I’ll bet most of you have, too. 

After leading churches for many years, I read some books that revealed God’s heart to me more clearly than I had ever seen it before.  I began to experience God’s passion for lost people throughout the world.

The Holy Spirit continually stirred my heart and I grew increasingly discontent doing what I was doing.  I felt compelled to leave my comfort zone and do something that most people would consider radical. 

The door opened for us to come to China for a year.  That first year turned into a second year;  and now the second year has led to a third year.  When we came, we had no special passion for China.  To be painfully honest, we knew very little about China – its history, its culture, or its people! 

However, as a result of our obedience to God’s challenge to leave our comfort zone and reach out to the lost – God has grown our hearts for China!  Consequently, we’re having difficulty leaving and returning to our former lives! 

In Acts 13:22 (NASB), we read:  “After [God] …removed [King Saul], He raised up David to be their king, concerning whom He also testified and said, ‘I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after My heart, who will do all My will.’

It seems clear that having a heart after God includes being willing to do His will!

This may be the biggest issue for many Christ-followers today.  It involves ignoring our own desires to prioritize God’s desires.  It means subordinating my will to His will!  It means saying:  “Not my will, but Your will be done!” 

God is searching for men and women who love Him supremely!  People who love Him more than themselves.  People who want what He wants.  People who are willing to live in temporary dwellings, who are willing to leave their homeland, who are willing to endure hardships. 

But God doesn’t expect people to do this unrewarded.  He has promised a great reward to those who will make His priorities their priorities!  These rewards are VERY exciting!  They will be VERY real.  These rewards will be given in Heaven after all its inhabitants have arrived!  At that moment we will be truly glad that we made the sacrifices we are making.  We will live for all eternity with a sense of gratitude that we used our time on this earth wisely.   

But how does one come to a place in his/her life where they are willing to live this way.  What makes a person commit his/her life so deeply to an unseen God? 

What else but a deep conviction that God is real and the truths of His Word are compelling! 

Of course, we must realize that many Christians never really mature in their faith and never really study His Word.  They live for themselves and give homage to some of the principles of God’s Word.  Yet they fall far short of the expectations God has for His children. 

God yearns for His children to be consumed with a passion for the lost.  He hopes to see their hearts grow through exposure to His own heart!  He expects to see people act on the things that are most important to Him!  That one thing always has been and ever shall be those who are spiritually lost! 

Whether reaching across the street, across the aisle, across town, across the country, or across the world – God desires and expects us to reach out intentionally to the lost!  When we’re doing so, we are pleasing to Him!  When we’re not doing so we will experience His nudging to move toward the lost – either in our sphere of influence or around the world. 

The call is the same for all:  Go into all the world and make disciples of all nations… 

Those who join God in this will have their hearts grown!  God’s love will multiply in their hearts as they reach out with the message of hope.  Jesus came to seek and to save the lost!  As the Father sent Him, now He has sent us! 

David Platt writes:  The stakes in this spiritual battle are eternal.  There is a true God over this world who desires all peoples to experience everlasting joy in heaven.  And there is a false god in this world who desires all people to experience everlasting suffering in hell.”

I wholeheartedly believe that those who deny their personal desires and deliberately press into the harvest will find that their hearts will grow.  They will discover an ever-deepening satisfaction that results from the affirmation of God!  Seeing lost people turn, with interest, toward Christ is a most rewarding moment!  Seeing them embrace Christ and change their lives ignites the deepest kind of joy! 

Those who accept the challenge of the Great Commission will do what they do less and less out of obedience and more and more out of love!  As their hearts grow, their love for the lost will also grow!  Their grip on the things of this world will loosen and their grasp of the rewards of the next world will become a growing hope! 

If we go.  If we go, then we - like the Grinch - will find that our hearts have expanded and a new love has been born in us that will forever motivate us to prioritize the priorities of our God!

Remember Secretariat?

There is something in thoroughbred horses that they refer to as the x-factor.  It essentially means that the horse has an exceptionally large heart.  It’s traced back to a horse named Eclipse, whose body was studied in 1789.  His heart was found to weigh 14 pounds – which is twice the normal weight of a horse’s heart. 

They have found that this trait can only be passed down through the daughters of the horse.  It was later discovered that Secretariat traced through his dame line to a daughter of Eclipse.  At the time of Sham’s death, his heart was found to weigh 18 pounds!  At the time of Secretariat’s death, his heart was estimated to weigh 22 pounds;  two-and-a-half times that of a normal horse! 

It can literally be said that this great racehorse had a huge heart! 

Listen!  I don’t know about you.  And I can’t speak for you.  But I can tell you this from me:  I want to run this race like Secretariat!  I want every quarter to be faster and better than the last!  I want to get better and more effective with each quarter-mile!  I don’t want to lose passion.  I don’t want to run out of steam.  I don’t want to slow down.  I don’t want to wear out or burn out or fall out or fake out or die out.  I want to progressively become more and more given over to the purposes of God. 

I want to grow my heart for God, and grow my heart for God, and grow my heart for God until that heart enables me to run the longest race and endure the most challenging of situations without denying Him or failing Him.  I want to finish like Paul, saying:  “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith…”  I don’t want to do this for honor’s sake or for legacy’s sake, or for my family’s sake;  I want to do it as a lifelong act of love and obedience to my Master and my Lord!  

When I stand at the judgment seat of Christ
And He shows me His plan for me
The plan of my life as it might have been
Had He had His way, and I see
How I blocked Him here and I checked Him there
And I would not yield my will,
Shall I see grief in my Savior’s eyes,
Grief though I love Him still?

He would have me rich, and I stand there poor,
Stripped of all but His grace,
While memory runs like a hunted thing
Down the paths I can’t retrace.
Then my desolate heart will well nigh break
With tears that I cannot shed.
I will cover my face with my empty hands
And bow my uncrowned head.

Lord, of the years that are left to me
I yield them to Thy hand.
Take me, mold me, make me,
To the pattern Thou hast planned.    
– anonymous       
[Love That Lasts, Jill Briscoe, p.152]

Monday, January 21, 2019

HIGH FIVES IN HEAVEN TODAY!

Charles (Charlie) Young had tons of friends - I was one of them.  Charlie had many circles of friendship;  I was probably in the fifth or sixth circle, but I counted it a privilege to be there!  He went to Heaven last night after a prolonged, mysterious physical struggle.  To say that he will be missed is the understatement of the year!  

When a truly godly man passes, our world takes a hit.  A godly man's influence is of inestimable value!  

Debbie and I attended Asbury Seminary at the same time as Charlie and Brenda.  Our paths crossed off-and-on through the years at various conferences.  We knew they had landed in Akron and were making a significant impact for Jesus there.

Charlie was the camp evangelist at the Tri-State Camp in the mid-1980's.  I remember several of his messages from that camp.  I also remember that he preached for over an hour every night!  But I never heard a complaint!  :-)

Charlie and Brenda were the speakers at a Pittsburgh Conference Pastor's Retreat back in the early 1990's.  It was one of the best we ever had!  Brenda spoke a "word of knowledge" to me at that event that changed my life!  

While we were living in Spencerville, Maryland, Brenda was brought in for a one-day pastor's training event.  Their ministry at Cornerstone Church was dynamic and they were each getting opportunities to speak during this season.  

Eventually, Charlie was called up to a greater level of service as the superintendent of the Ohio Conference.  It was at that time that Brenda began leading Cornerstone Church.  

A family crisis caused us to leave Maryland and retreat to our family in western Pennsylvania for several months.  Eventually, we landed a job in Akron running a licensed home for behaviorally challenged children in Summit County.  We knew when we moved to the area that we would attend Cornerstone Church.  We looked forward to being part of the ministry of this great congregation.

On our first visit to Cornerstone, we noticed that they were saying farewell to an associate pastor.  Within weeks, Brenda hired me as a part-time pastor.  A few months later, another associate left and I was bumped up to the Lead Associate position.  Over the next six years we got to know Charlie and Brenda a lot better.

Charlie always impressed me!  He had a strong impact on men!  They seemed drawn to him!  He had shown himself capable of church-growing, church-planting and church-rescuing!  He accrued this reputation without arrogance or standing aloof from others!  He loved people equally and thoroughly. He modeled a godly life for everyone and did so with excellence.  

He gave a message at Cornerstone one week that I've never forgotten!  He told of the Passover and the command to the Israelites not to allow anyone to leave their houses that night as the angel-of-death moved through the city.  In doing so, he talked about the love of a father and suggested that many fathers that night sat in a chair in the doorway to prevent any children from accidentally slipping out of the house.  Charlie brought out a chair and set it on the platform.  With tears, he talked of a father's love and a father's desire to protect his family!  It was a deeply moving message for men! 

Charlie led his family with strength!  On more than a few times, I have heard him address Brenda with the words, "Now dear..."  When he spoke the word "dear", his voice had a slight dip to it that matched perfectly the twinkle in his eye.  It was the most tactful setting of a boundary that I've ever observed!  ;-)   

Charlie used his gift of humor masterfully and his contagious smile and belly laugh brought joy to any group he participated in!  He was a big guy physically;  I eventually came to realize that he had to be in order to contain such a great heart for God and others!  

His legacy is well-established!  It'll be carried on for generations through Rachel, Zach and Jacob.  And then it'll go even longer through the grandchildren's lives that he has touched!  But more than that, it'll be carried on by the thousands of people whose lives were changed and impacted through his preaching, teaching, modeling and friendship!

One thing is certain!  Charlie is enjoying his reward today!  He'll be missed beyond description by his family and a LOT of others;  but, he laid a foundation of strength that will carry his loved ones through!  

Debbie and I are sad and surprised that he's gone on ahead of us!  We happen to be on vacation and will be unable to be a part of any farewell events for Charlie.  That makes us feel badly, but our prayers will join with those of MANY others to bless this family and call on God for strength for Brenda, the family and Cornerstone Church!  

So long, Charlie!  See ya later!  :-)

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

PRE-MARRIAGE COUNSELING

I was twenty-three when I was assigned to my first full-time church.  Even then, I knew that it was important for me to offer pre-marital counseling to couples planning to be married.  Never mind that I had only been married for two years.  

I quickly became trained and certified to use the Taylor/Johnson Temperament Analysis test to assist me in helping these couples.  This was an effective aid in enabling me to open discussion in critical areas that would strengthen the fabric of their relationship.  

Over the years - before I earned my counseling degree - I bought and used many tools and resources to equip me to be more effective in working with pre-marriage couples. 

I met with little resistance to my requirement for ten hours of counseling - usually negotiated in hour-and-a-half segments.  Of course, as a pastor, there was no extra money involved in providing this service.  In most cases it took up evening or weekend time for these appointments.  But it was a service that I felt strongly about and was happy to provide.  

Statistically, counseling before a marriage seems to offer some advantages:  "There is a 30 percent higher marital success rate for couples who received counseling before their wedding than for those who did not."  [pairedlife.com/relationships/A-Guide-to-Premarital-Counseling]


Most pre-marital counseling is done by pastors.  Understandably, they provide this service because they genuinely care about the success and enrichment of the marriage!  As hinted earlier, they are certainly not doing it for financial gain.

I believe most pastors are eager to educate and create dialogue in vital areas that may or may not have been engaged in before.

Topics that I consistently tried to include were:
  • communications
  • conflict
  • finances
  • family
  • sexual relations
  • marital roles
As my knowledge and experience grew, I feel confident that I was better able to create dialogue in the sessions that genuinely allowed couples to grow and develop deeper understanding.  In my last session with couples I always pointed out that since we had already established a relationship, it would be easy for them to call and make an appointment if they ever faced a crisis or need in their marriage.  

I was often surprised to find that couples had not discussed critical issues like: 
  • how many children they wanted to have (and when), 
  • individual financial debt and major expenditure plans, 
  • how they would divide time between their families of origin...etc.
Of course, I'm retired now and removed from this process.  However, I sense that the level of appreciation for pre-marital counseling has diminished.  I grieve that thought and hope my perception is wrong.  

I strongly believe that it is time well spent by couples who want the most from their marriage and want to have all of the advantages as they embrace this God-blessed way of living!  

PS  -  If there are any couples out there who would be interested in having pre-marital counseling, get in touch with me and let's get some dates set!  :-)