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Thursday, August 24, 2023

AUGUST: BIRTHDAY MONTH FOR THE HAIRE'S

August of 1980 and 1981 were big years for the Haire family!  Our Irish twins came along to change our lives!  We’d had Travis for four-and-a-half years.  He wasn’t necessarily a happy boy at the birth of these two, BUT WE SURE WERE! 

August 13 to August 24 were the worst days for Troy when they were young.  For those nine days, Tracie taunted him with the fact that they were the same age! 

But the rest of the year they loved one another dearly and were natural born playmates!  Oh! The joy they brought us – and continue to bring us! 

Let’s talk about Troy first.

He was pretty shy and didn’t make friends easily, but Tracie helped him in that department.  He loved to play!  In the East Liverpool years, he and his friend, Morgan, would thunder down Thompson Avenue on their Hot Wheels!  Other days they would disappear down over the hillside and find things to do.  They were outside most of the time doing stuff!  Sometimes my tools would disappear and I’d have to tell him (and Morgan) to bring them back! 

He had church friends too that he enjoyed!  And, of course, school friends.  While Travis went 1st grade through graduation in East Liverpool [quite a feat for a pastor’s kid!], Troy and Tracie went to East Liverpool Christian School.  Troy played basketball, soccor, and track in these years. 

If I could get a do-over, I’d have stayed a few more years in ELO to allow them both to graduate.  The Maryland years held many challenging adjustments.

Eventually we ended up in Akron, OH at the Cornerstone Church.  At 20, Troy bought his own car and house and moved out on his own.  He kept in touch with us and only lived a couple of miles away.  We were running a licensed home for severely behaviorally challenged kids at that time.  Troy and Tracie were inconvenienced to have other kids (mostly younger) living in our home.  We’ve got stories galore from these years!

When we left Akron, Troy, of course, stayed a few more years until he ultimately used his brother as a launching pad to live in Savannah, GA.  At one point or another, Allison Harding, (a Maryland friend) was roomates with each of our three T’s.  He had developed a trade in Akron as an upholsterer. 

He ended up working for a subsidiary of Gulf Stream.  Then, after a season of independence and relationship building with his brother, he began volunteering as a fireman.  That led to a new vocation for Troy – one that he continues to hold even today!

Missy came along and turned his head.  They were married in February of 2012.  They make an awesome team and absolutely love being together! 

Troy’s respected by most everyone who knows him.  He’s fun to be around.  He’s a hard and capable worker with many skills.  He’s honest as can be!  He loves the Lord and serves the church!  We couldn’t be more proud of him!

Now Tracie.

She was a bit of a Tom-boy growing up.  I loved it when they would come running to give me hugs when I came home.  She was a happy girl!  She loved her brothers.  She made friends easily.  She seemed to enjoy school.  She was a cheerleader at ELCS. 

In Maryland, she made many, many friends.  The acres that the church owned were rutted with four-wheeler tracks during the several years we lived there.  Our sudden move back to Pennsylvania came at an awkward time for her, but she never complained. 

She stayed with us in Akron until she was nineteen and then moved back to Maryland to live with Allison.  Their friendship remains strong to this day! While there, she met Jon Kerstetter.  That relationship bloomed. 

She showed herself to be a capable manager at Penney’s both in Maryland and again in Boardman – where she lived with us again as she and her mom planned a wedding!  The wedding took place in January, 2005. What a joyful day!  Then they left for Honolulu, where Jon was based in the U.S. Navy! 

Eventually, they ended up in Groton, CT, where Rylie was born in 2007 and Coltin in 2009.  We made lots of trips to Connecticut during those years! 

Two years ago, Jon was assigned as Command Chief at the Cape Canavaral base.  It’s hard to believe that he will be retiring in March, 2024.  Now we visit them every spring and they come home every fall.  It’s been hard for us to always have them so distant, but we’ve found ways to stay in touch! 

They’ve been a blessing to the churches that they’ve participated in!  Jon leads his family with strength and grace! 

What a great mom!  We’re SO PROUD of her and her family!  Our grandkids bring us so much joy!  They’ll be home next week, and we can hardly wait!

Happy birthday to these two! 

Troy and Tracie, we love you and are so proud of you! 

Tuesday, August 22, 2023

EVERYTHING RISES AND FALLS ON LEADERSHIP: A Tribute to a Bishop of the Free Methodist Church!

I just read a post by former bishop of the Free Methodist Church [1985-1999], Gerald Bates.  His post celebrates his marriage to his wife, Marlene for sixty-nine years!  My response to his announcement was simply: “Still leading after all these years!”  😊

I’ve never written a tribute for a bishop before, so bear with me here, but I do believe it’s important to say things while they can still be appreciated by the people we honor!

Bishop Bates served the Free Methodist Church as a missionary from 1957-1985.  The last twelve of those years he served as the Area Administrator for center Africa!  His distinguished leadership in this role and his sacrificial blessing of the African Church propelled him into his role as bishop of the church.

What I’m about to share is my opinion and my story.  I hope you enjoy reading it.  It’s my honest reflection of this season of his leadership.

In 1985, I was early in my leadership of the Oakland FMC in East Liverpool, Ohio.  Having been appointed there in 1982 [at the age of thirty], I was just beginning to be able to lead with some measure of freedom.  A generational gap had strangled the church from growth and we were finally seeing some ability to resolve that issue and see convert growth.  My confidence was growing.  Eventually the size of the church would triple – before I moved on in 1995. 

In Bishop Bates’ first leadership session of the [then] Pittsburgh Conference, I had not liked the way a vote was taken during this special session held at the Washington, PA FMC.  [All I can remember is that we had voted by acclamation on something, and I felt that the vote was close enough to demand a ballot vote.  In my brashness I responded by frustrating the rest of the conference session.]  For some reason – in my youth and zeal – I repeatedly called for a ‘ballot vote’ on every incidental vote that occurred for the rest of that day.  It was my 'protest' against what I felt had been an injustice.

It eventually became greeted with groans across the conference floor.  Each time I made this motion, I assured that I had a ‘second’ to make it official [I can't remember who my co-conspirator was.].  Each time, Bishop Bates had to call for a vote on my motion – which, of course, lost with each incidence!  It was an exercise in frustration that grew weary as the day went on.  Whatever the issue was, I felt compelled to call it front-and-center repeatedly throughout the day to underscore my disappointment. 

When the conference session ended, Superintendent Robert Neal escorted Bishop Bates to a nearby restaurant to enjoy a meal together.  My father, a delegate from the New Brighton FMC, and his pastor, Lloyd Donnell were already seated to enjoy their meal.  The superintendent and bishop joined them at their table!  During the meal, Bishop Bates asked: “Who was the young man who was so clearly trying to make a point in our session today?”  The table went silent as Superintendent Neal and Pastor Donnell dropped their eyes to their plates.  My dad responded to the bishop: “That was my son, Bishop Bates.  His name is Harold Haire and he’s the pastor of one of our churches in East Liverpool, Ohio.”  From my understanding, that’s where the dialogue ended.  😂

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 With that delightful anecdote shared, let me continue. 

In his address to the conference that day, Bishop Bates said some things we had never heard before!  He told us that he recognized his need to acclimate to the American culture before he could effectively lead the church.  In doing so, he expressed confidence in our ability to lead our churches and to do so effectively.  He essentially gave us license to lead our churches in the way that we – and our people – deemed best!  It was a fresh note that we had not heard before!  Many questions ensued!

It’s important to note that at this time almost every church had a Sunday School session before its morning worship.  We also – almost without exception – still had Sunday evening services. 

 Some pastors asked:

·       Can we change the times of our services?

·       Others asked if Sunday School had to be held in the early morning?

·       One asked if it could be held in the evening instead.

Most of the questions had to do with scheduling.  You could sense an incredulous response on the part of these pastoral leaders!

Each time, Bishop Bates responded in the same manner.  Essentially, he said, “You know the culture of your church far better than I do!  Lead with wisdom and grace and do what you think you need to do in order to grow the Kingdom of God in your geographical area!”

It was liberating leadership!  Pastors were encouraged by his trust!  That next year, many changes were made in many of our churches!  We were set free to lead by our bishop, and the results were pretty remarkable!

For my entire life, the greatest growth in the Free Methodist denomination had taken place in our western conferences.  But not that year!  For the first time in memory, the eastern area led the church in growth!  It was phenomenal!  It was joyful!  It was liberating! 

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Leadership guru, John Maxwell has consistently taught that “everything rises and falls based on leadership!” 

When we were given the liberty to lead, growth occurred!  Bishop Bates’ humility and honest confession in his new role as bishop of the church had a stimulating impact on our area!  Pastors were empowered!  The Kingdom grew! 

Bishop Bates continued to lead the church until the end of the century!  He distinguished himself in this season of leadership!  The church – especially the eastern area – owes him a debt of gratitude!  And as I said earlier, he’s still leading today by his integrity, his devotion and his deep commitment to his Lord!  Thank you, Bishop Bates!  You have our respect and our gratitude!  Blessings on you and Marlene! 

Friday, August 18, 2023

LIVING IN COMMUNITY

When I was a younger man, I assumed the leadership of a Family Camp that met for ten days every summer.  At the time, it was populated by a wide array of ages including whole families and family systems.  The ‘General Rules’ hadn’t been updated in decades, so I rewrote them adding a focus on living in community. 

The dorm rooms didn’t have any insulation.  Nor did the cabins, which were usually about four feet apart.  The bell was to ring at 11:00 PM, signaling quiet!  It would ring again at 7:00 AM to waken everyone! 

Many of my generation wanted to stay up late to talk, play games, or just generally have fun.  But that wasn’t fair to others who wanted to sleep! 

As the Camp Director, I had to become the ‘bad guy’ by going around and enforcing the rules about quiet after the bell!  My peers weren’t always happy with me for my rigidity, but I was responsible for the whole camp! 

Living in community requires us to be respectful of our neighbors and to bend our own desires in order to maintain peace and joy for the whole group!

That’s what these chapters, after God gave Moses the Ten Commandments, are all about! 

This multitude had been released from slavery in Egypt by the miraculous intervention of God!  They were now on a long journey through a wilderness area in hopes of arriving at their ‘Promised Land’.  But there were at least a half million of them!  Imagine the disputes and complaints that arose on a daily basis! 

So God – who had initiated this release and was guiding them with a cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night – provided them with some general rules to maintain peace and equity in their camp.

The ‘top ten’ rules were the most important:


But God added to these to cover more incidental issues.  Some examples from Exodus 23 follow:

·         Don’t pass on malicious gossip.

·         Don’t go along with the crowd in doing evil.

·         Don’t show favoritism in a dispute.

·         Don’t take bribes.

·         Don’t take advantage of a stranger.

·         Don’t give corrupt testimony.

God wanted His people to live in harmony! 

After this, He reminded them to be sure to celebrate the spring, summer and autumn festivals that He had set in place!  These were important times to worship, feast, and cease from labor!  The celebration of these appointed times were designed to honor God and bring the people together in unity!

This chapter ends with a stunning promise/warning from God:

·         God is sending an angel ahead of them to lead them and prepare the way! 

·         “But you—you serve your God and he’ll bless your food and your water. I’ll get rid of the sickness among you; there won’t be any miscarriages nor barren women in your land. I’ll make sure you live full and complete lives. I’ll send my Terror on ahead of you and throw those peoples you’re approaching into a panic. All you’ll see of your enemies is the backs of their necks. [vs.25-27 TM]

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It may be the twenty-first century, but we still need laws/rules to guide us and set parameters for the maintaining of peace and order.  If these guidelines are indeed in place, then there have to be enforcers!  Somebody must have the authority to step in and remind us of the guidelines for sustaining a peaceful community!  Without this, there will be chaos!  

Remember that angel that God sent to go ahead of His people?  God said of him: “Don’t go against him.  He won’t put up with your rebellions because he’s acting on my authority” [v.21 TM].  

Thursday, August 17, 2023

COACH PAUL'S CHALLENGE

Philippians 3:12-21 [The Message Bible]

When I opened my Bible this morning, I noticed this note.  Apparently somewhere along the way, Debbie had been reading it too!  I’m a blessed man to share a passion for Christ with my wife!

Today’s ten verses are so uplifting and encouraging!   I hope you’ll take the time to look them up and read them [in The Message Bible]!  Here’s my summary of what you’ll find:

FIRST

A.      Paul openly confesses that he doesn’t have it all together.  [That’s the humility that Deb was referring to in her note.] 

BUT, he lived with a deep sense of appreciation for that day when Jesus appeared to him while he was travelling to Damascus!  This intervention is still fresh on his mind!  That was the day that everything changed! 

Do you have a day like that?  A day when Jesus made Himself real to you?  A day when you surrendered to Him and His way?  Do you appreciate the fact that He cared enough about you to pursue you and set you on a new path?  [It would be alright to stop reading right now and give Him thanks for His love for you!]

     B.      Paul goes on to share a secret of success with us:  Keep your eye on the goal and stay focused on it! 

             What is the goal?  TOTAL COMMITMENT to the Lord and His ways! 

 He says: “If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear your blurred vision—you’ll see it yet![v.15 TM]

C.      Finally, Paul gives a word about determination!  “Now that we’re on the right track, let’s stay on it” [v.16 TM].

 SECOND

Paul speaks to us just like a coach would speak to his/her team! 

     A.      Even though it is repetitive, he emphasizes staying focused on the goal!  KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE! 

B.      “Keep track of those you see running this same course, headed for this same goal” [v.17 TM].  So much could be said here!  We are not in this alone!  We have many travelling companions!  We are to look after one another!  Protect one another. Warn one another.

             I’m going to curb my desire to extrapolate on this and simply say:  

It’s hard to be this engaged when we only see one another for two hours on Sunday morning! 

C.      Again, like any good coach, Paul warns us to beware of those who would distract us!

 “There are many out there taking other paths, choosing other goals, and trying to get you to go along with them. I’ve warned you of them many times; sadly, I’m having to do it again. All they want is easy street. They hate Christ’s Cross. But easy street is a dead-end street. Those who live there make their bellies their gods; belches are their praise; all they can think of is their appetites” [vs.18-19 TM].

 Associate with all, but choose your companions carefully!

 THIRD

The prize!

A.      Although we live with our feet firmly planted on this earth, WE ARE ALREADY CITIZENS OF HEAVEN!

Never allow yourself to forget that! 

B.      While we’re engaged in the busyness of living our lives in the midst of zillions of distractions, paste this reminder into the flyleaf of your mind: “We’re waiting the arrival of the Savior, the Master, Jesus Christ, who will transform our earthly bodies into glorious bodies like his own”  [vs.20-21 TM].

C.      With these transformed bodies, we will be ready and able to enter the celestial city where we will live and serve His purposes for all eternity! 

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Don’t get distracted thinking you’re a citizen of the United States or earth!   What a temporary disposition!  You’re much greater than that!  You have an eternal destiny that so many ignore or are unaware of! 

The Lord Jesus wants to see you there!

Paul wants to see you there.

And so do I!  ;-)

Wednesday, August 16, 2023

WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP MY CHURCH TRANSITION?

Pastors come and pastors go, but the people tend to stay – and quite often for long periods. 

The primary word for the church in our New Testament is the Greek word, ecclesia.  It came – during the first century – to be used to describe groups of believers.  It means ‘called out ones’.  In short: we are the church! 

Pastors are spiritual leaders who are called, appointed or in some cases founding pastors!  I’m a strong believer that leaders lead!  Change will take place most effectively when a pastor initiates – or supports – the change!  However, lay people can be a powerful influence when they cry out together for change! 

If your church has become complacent

              Or is shrinking,

              Or is only seeing transfer growth,

              Or is losing members [and therefore is dealing with financial struggles],

Then it is time for remaining members to move into action!

You don’t need permission to pray together,

              To meet together and strategize,

              To read about how to revitalize a church,

              Or to visit growing, vibrant churches to see what they’re doing differently!

A group of people – even a small group – can make a difference and become a catalyst for change!

Express your concerns to your pastor and share your thoughts with her/him!  Don’t do this on a Sunday during the greeting time!  Make an appointment and speak to him or her privately [or in a small group].  Tell your pastor what you’d like to see happen and what your concerns are. Don’t, in any way, threaten a pastor or gang up on him/her!  Show authentic concern!  Most pastors are not content to see decline or a lack of growth.  Hopefully, your pastor will welcome your thoughts and ideas and cooperate in aligning for change. 


REGARDING VISITING OTHER VIBRANT CHURCHES

1.       Don’t visit mega-churches in your area!  Visit growing churches that are similar in size [or slightly larger] to your church! 

2.       Make notes about what you notice, what you liked, what you didn’t like.

3.       Arrive early and observe!

4.       Stay in your seat a bit after the service ends and observe the interactions of the people.

I visited a large, multi-site church I visited a large, multi-site church in my area.  When the service ended, the people left their cushioned, theater seats and walked straight out the door to their cars.  They didn't even know one another!  This is NOT an admirable trait!

5.       Notice things like:

o   Greeters

o   Parking aids/signs/entrance markings

o   Welcoming systems

o   Order for worship

o   How does the service flow?

o   Is the altar used?

o   What kind of music is being used?

o   Did people engage you/greet you/welcome you?

o   Was the message engaging? Relevant? Understandable? Biblical?

Take your notes home and get together with like-minded friends to discuss these things.


REGARDING READING

I am retired, so I am not reading as much as I did when I was leading the church.  However, some good timeless suggestions follow:

o   RADICAL by David Platt

o   CRAZY LOVE by Francis Chan

o   RADICAL TOGETHER by David Platt

o   CHANGING THE WORLD THROUGH KINDNESS by Steve Sjogren

o   MAKING A GOOD CHURCH GREAT by Steve Sjogren

o   REVOLUTION by George Barna

For specifically cultural growth and understanding, consider:

o   Unchristian by David Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons

o   THE NEXT CHRISTIANS by Gabe Lyons

Don’t feel overwhelmed!  You don’t have to read them all!  Just get one and read it!  Discuss it with other concerned friends.  Let what you’ve read light a fire in you for forming your church into one of significant influence! 


REGARDING MEETING TOGETHER

Don’t be clandestine!  Let your pastor know what you’re doing.  If s/he is willing, involve him/her in your process!  Invite others to engage as well!  Don’t meet during church services!  Don’t compete with your own church!  Don’t be critical of current leaders!  Be positive!  Look for ways to improve how your church operates, worships, reaches out, and engages community people!  Don’t be a thorn in the flesh, be a catalyst for growth! 

 

PRAY! PRAY! PRAY! 

WORK, WORK, WORK!

THEN – STAND BY AND SEE THE SALVATION OF THE LORD!  [Exodus 14:13]

Tuesday, August 15, 2023

TRANSITIONING CHURCHES

Transitioning a church is one of the hardest things in the world to do! 

Churches take on so much baggage over the years!

ü  People who have been there a long time think they have seniority and should have more ‘say’ than new people!

ü  Things typically become more regimented and therefore, predictable.

ü  Forms become more important than Spirit!

ü  The work of the church becomes more about keeping things going than doing ministry!

ü  The walls of the church become thicker and thicker, isolating church members from the lost still outside the walls!

ü  The ‘feel’ of the church becomes more like that of a club than that of a life-saving-station!

I could go on, but I’ve made my point. 

Turning this around takes courage, persistence, confrontation and perseverance!  Oh! And TIME! 

I’ve been privileged to be a part of this process several times.  It is exhausting and frustrating in the early stages, but when it FINALLY begins to take hold – it is very exciting and rewarding! 

The Apostle Paul seems to be speaking of this process in Philippians 3.  The key: “…rejoice in the Lord” [v.1 TM].

Then, he warns:

“Steer clear of the barking dogs, those religious busybodies, all bark and no bite. All they’re interested in is appearances—knife-happy circumcisers, I call them. The real believers are the ones the Spirit of God leads to work away at this ministry, filling the air with Christ’s praise as we do it“ [vs.2-3 TM].

Paul then goes on to speak about his credentials – which were noteworthy!  He explains that these credentials are nothing to him anymore.  [It’s really worth reading in The Message Bible!] 

Instead, Paul has connected with the real thing – Jesus Christ!  Nothing else matters!  Paul now wants to “…know Christ personally, experience his resurrection power, be a partner in his suffering, and go all the way with him to death itself. If there was any way to get in on the resurrection from the dead, I wanted to do it [vs.10-11 TM]. 

Fortunately, the churches that Paul founded largely took on his passion and followed his example, although he did have to revisit and correct some of their distracted ventures! 

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It’s so easy today – especially, it seems in the American church – for churches to become about budgets, boards and business instead of fulfilling the mission of Christ: seeking and saving the lost! 

Many pastors don’t have the desire, know-how, or courage to even try to awaken a church that’s become distracted from its mission.  Others genuinely try, but quickly become discouraged by the deeply-dug-in-opposition that needs to defend its power-base!  Still others are just there for the salary. 

GOD HELP US!  If John Maxwell is right, and everything rises and falls on leadership – then we need pastors who are getting it right to be able to transition dead or dying churches! 

Too many pastors today seem to have bought into the ‘pastor as CEO’ model taught so aggressively during the 90’s.  They don’t want to do the work of ministry!  They prefer to sit in their office and work on their computers.  How long does it take for us to realize that this isn’t working and the church is shrinking?    

Monday, August 14, 2023

JESUS ON HEAVEN AND HELL

Luke 16:19-31

Jesus is teaching.  He is in the middle of a message.  Suddenly, He begins a story that many of us are familiar with. 

He starts this story with the words: “Now there was a rich man…” [v.19 NASB].  We are not given his name.  He apparently lived in opulence:  “...he habitually dressed in purple and fine linen, joyously living in splendor every day” [v.19 NASB]. 

Jesus continues: “And a poor man named Lazarus was laid at his gate, covered with sores, and longing to be fed with the crumbs which were falling from the rich man’s table…even the dogs were coming and licking his sores” [v.20-21 NASB].

It’s very important to notice that the poor man is named!  His name is Lazarus. 

Why is this important?

Because when Jesus speaks parables, He generally makes it known that He is telling a story.  I don’t believe the characters in Jesus’ parables ever have names.  Remember how this part of his teaching began: “Now there was a rich man…” [v.19 NASB]. 

I think it is worth considering that this is NOT a parable!  More than likely, Jesus is talking about a real life situation – something that happened in real time. 

Jesus goes into facts that only He could know:

Ø  The poor man [named Lazarus] died and was carried away by the angels to Abraham’s bosom. [v.22]

Ø  Then, later, the rich man also died and ended up in Hades.

Definition of terms:  [both terms have complex, lengthy explanations, but I have summarized them simply for our purposes!]

Abraham's bosom is a figurative expression for the place of comfort for the righteous dead in the Old Testament.

Hades is the state in which ALL the dead exist.  [Jesus will describe it as we proceed.]

Therefore, ‘Abraham’s bosom’ may be part of Hades.

Jesus explains that the rich man was suffering intensely in the part of Hades that he was in!  [v.23]  He could apparently see Lazarus in ‘Abraham’s bosom’ “far away” [v.23 TM].

The rich man cried out to Father Abraham asking that Lazarus be allowed to “dip the tip of his finger in water and cool off my tongue, for I am in agony in this flame” [v.24 TM].

However, Abraham explained that “there is a great chasm fixed, so that those who wish to come over from here to you will not be able, and that none may cross over from there to us” [v.26 TM]. 

Hearing this explanation, the rich man appeals to Abraham to send Lazarus to his brothers who are still living to warn them “so that they will not also come to this place of torment” [v.28 TM]. 

Abraham simply reminds him that they – like the rich man – “have Moses and the Prophets; let them hear them” [v.29 TM]. 

But the rich man still pleads that Lazarus be sent to them.  Abraham responds one final time:

“‘If they won’t listen to Moses and the Prophets, they’re not going to be convinced by someone who rises from the dead’” [v.31 TM].

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What do we learn here?

1.      This does not appear to be a parable, but a real story that could only be told by Jesus!

2.      The place of our eternal destiny has two divisions: one of comfort and one of torment.

3.      It is implied that our eternal destiny is – at least partly to do with – the measure of our compassion while we are living here on earth!  Abraham said, ‘Child, remember that in your lifetime you got the good things and Lazarus the bad things. It’s not like that here. Here he’s consoled and you’re tormented” [v.25 TM]. 

IMPORTANT NOTE:

This teaching is given BEFORE the death and resurrection of Jesus! 

Peter teaches us that “…Christ also died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit; in which also He went and made proclamation to the spirits now in prison [Hades], who once were disobedient [I Peter 318-19 NASB].

This means that the rich man was given a second chance!  However, no one living after the resurrection will have a second chance!  We must live responsibly and honor Christ daily with the hope that His grace will be sufficient to see us through to the glories of Heaven! 

Sunday, August 6, 2023

NINE YEARS AT FREE METHODIST COMMUNITY CHURCH - New Middletown, OH

July, 2003 – June, 2012

We Moved from Akron to New Middletown in June of 2003, and the VanArsdale family met us and helped us unload our truck – a kindness we truly appreciated!

Something extraordinary happened before we arrived.  Before Memorial weekend, as I was praying about the changes taking place in our lives, I felt a distinct calling to fast for forty days before assuming my new role.  I had tried fasting for forty days at Oakland and had to quit after twenty-five days because I was having severe stomach pain. 

I questioned God on this leading and He seemed to confirm it in my spirit.  So, I counted backward from July 7, (my first Sunday) and found that forty days would begin right after Memorial weekend.  That was great!  It allowed us to go camping and for me to eat all of my favorite foods!  J  I began the fast and continued it with very little difficulty – in spite of having to attend four graduation parties!!!!! 

On the Tuesday before my first Sunday, I travelled to New Middletown to meet my new secretary (Joni) and to see my office and tour the building.  I had met with the church’s Ministry Council along with Superintendent Charlie on a recent Saturday.  They had questioned me about a number of things and I had told them what to expect from my leadership.

When I arrived at the church, there were – to my surprise - many cars in the parking lot.  People were lined up and waiting to talk with me.  I met with people all day long and heard two sides of a story.  This was a VERY BROKEN church!  Many were angry with the Ohio Conference.    

I was taken so much by surprise!  It was a TERRIBLY discouraging day.  I ended up driving home late that evening in the dark.  As I drove along, I was determined to get home and call the superintendent and tell him that I was refusing the appointment.  It was then that I heard the “still, small voice of God!”  He simply said:  “Now do you see why I asked you to fast for forty days?”  

This changed my perspective!  He had prepared me spiritually for this day.  I began to put my trust in Him and asked Him to lead me and guide me through these early days of ministry at New Middletown.

Make no mistake about it!  Fasting changes you!  It changes your perspective and it changes your attitude!  I led through those first weeks at New Middletown differently because I had fasted.  Had I NOT fasted – I probably would have quit before I began.  But, having gone without food for nearly forty days had caused me to cast my dependence on God!  I always am closer to Him as a result of fasting!  Oftentimes I am reluctant to end a fast because I don’t want that nearness and dependence to end.    

Here’s a remarkable but true statement:  I believe that fasting is THE MOST POWERFUL SPIRITUAL WARFARE WEAPON THAT GOD HAS GIVEN US.  I also believe that fasting is the most UNDERUSED SPIRITUAL WEAPON that God has given us! 

I preached that first Sunday and reminded the people that just as many of them were missing their beloved previous pastor, there was a large group of people in Akron, OH, who were also missing their beloved associate pastor.  That reminder seemed to have an impact! 

I began giving ministry as fairly as I knew how.  I accepted everyone who was a part of the church and tried to minister to them as effectively as possible.  The extremely angry people were the hardest to deal with.  Some of them were in positions of leadership. 

I told the Lord:  “God, I will work as hard as I can to keep everyone in this church.  But, if they choose to leave, I will not pursue them.  I will trust that it is Your pruning work, and I will let them go.”  And I followed through on that.

All-in-all, there were about twenty people who were extremely troubled by the pastoral change.  I never even met about ten of them.  I worked HARD to keep the other ten involved in our church; but by December, they were all gone! 

In February, I lined up twenty brand new people across the front of the church and brought them all in as new members!!!!!!!  God is faithful!  And the church continued to grow for the next nine years!

I kept hearing about a promising young man named Justin Sargent.  I had not met him yet, but even the previous pastor had mentioned him as a strong potential leader. 

One day there was a knock on my front door.  There was a skinny, young kid on my porch and he introduced himself as Justin Sargent.  He seemed in a hurry and explained that he wanted to go to Teen Mania in Texas, but they required him to have a mentor.  Then he asked, “Would you be my mentor?” 

I told him that I had heard of him and that I would be glad to be his mentor.  He said he was in a hurry and he left.   I didn’t hear from him for three more weeks.  So, eventually, I found a way to contact him and told him:

“Justin, you don’t understand what a mentor is.  It means that you place yourself under someone else’s accountability.  It implies that you get together at least once-a-week to talk, pray and study.  If you want me to be your mentor, these are my expectations.  Otherwise, we’re done.”

He committed to meeting with me and it was the beginning of an amazing partnership! 

After a year-or-so, Joni married a man from the Cornerstone Church and left.  I began the process of hiring a new secretary.  Linda Savaet applied and I interviewed her (along with several others).  Linda was very meek and unsure of herself, but I saw valuable qualities in her that could be cultivated.  I hired her and she became a VERY VALUABLE partner in ministry!  She also became a soul-winner!  She continued to serve the church as our youth leader during my entire tenure. 

At one point, I remember going into her office and she began telling me about some of the kids calling and contacting her.  I asked her if she texted.  She said, “No.”  I told her to get a cell phone that she could use for texting and that, if necessary, the church would buy it for her.  I explained that it was the way youth preferred to communicate and that as a youth leader she MUST be proficient at communicating via texting.  Linda was VERY hesitant.  But, she followed through and became an even more effective leader as a result!  J

For the first three years at New Middletown, I continually asked every board and committee why they thought God had placed us where we were.  I’m certain that I aggravated these leaders by persistently asking this question, but we needed a clear answer to our question: 

Why are we HERE? 

The church was operating at a ‘status quo’ level with no clear sense of mission or direction.  I appreciated the diligent work of my predecessor, Drew Mountcastle, who had spent a great deal of energy renovating the building and property.  This allowed me to help the church focus on its MISSION! 

In my third year, Linda and I did an age-study of our congregation – as best we could.  We put our results on a small slip of paper grouped roughly:

    Birth to age 12
    age 12-18
    age 18-30
    age 30-40
    age 40-60
    age 60+

I presented this study to our Ministry Council (think:  Leadership Board). 

The first thing I asked them was if they thought it was fairly accurate.  They agreed that it appeared to be accurate.  Then I asked them to make observations.  It was slow starting, but gradually we observed that we were terribly weak in the 3rd and 4th categories. 

I asked what the implications of that might be.  We quickly observed that if it didn’t change, we would not have a church in the future. 

My only intention for this activity was to raise their awareness.  We clearly had achieved that objective.  I did add that I had come to them from a church that had been very effective at winning younger people. 

They asked me what it takes to do so.  I told them it primarily takes three main things:

1.       Having young people on the platform every Sunday so that new people see that young people can be leaders here.

2.       Placing young people on all of our major boards and committees and listening to them when they speak!

3.       Changing our worship (particularly music) to be more appealing to their age group!

By this time it was nearing 9:00 PM and everyone knew that I end our meetings promptly at 9:00 PM.  I began closing the meeting and moving toward prayer.  Bill Brandt spoke up and said, “Pastor, are we going to do anything about this?”  I told them that I had only intended to raise awareness and hadn’t really expected any action. 

A relatively new Council member, Tom Savaet (Linda’s husband), spoke up:  “I think we should give the pastor a green light to go ahead with these changes.”  I looked around the table and everyone was nodding in agreement.  They made it official, and things quickly began to change.  I did, however, remind them that there would be a reprisal to our efforts and that I would need them to advocate for the changes.  They agreed to do so!  I went home overjoyed!

Within two years, our church was FULL of young couples!  Our nursery was teeming with babies!  This picture was taken of our young couples: [and they weren’t all there that day!]



Within that three years, we also answered our question about our mission and clarified it. 

Cellular service was exploding at that time, so our mission’s icon became the service bars of the cell-phone:

We exist to HELP PEOPLE

get connected

to God, to other believers, and to the world in service!

at FMCC!

Get connected to God!

Get connected to other believers.

Get connected to the world.

 

Then, we set up to lead our church utilizing teams (I’ve always hated the word ‘committee’).  Here are some of the teams that led our church:

    · Adult Ministries Team
    · Youth Ministries Team
    · Children’s Ministries Team
    · Worship Team
    · HOPE Ministries Team [Helping Other People Everyway]
    · Prayer Team
    · Visitation Team
    · Buildings and Property Team
    · Missions Team

There were many smaller teams that also functioned under these main teams:

        o Small Groups
        o Greeter Team
        o Two different Worship Teams
        o Stewards Team
        o Recycling Team
        o Drama Team
        o Sound Team
        o PowerPoint Team
        o Decorating Team
        o Finance Team
        o Kitchen Team
        o Office Team
        o Security Team
        o Tellers Team

Our staff met every Tuesday morning for about two hours for prayer, training, evaluation, and planning.  On most Tuesdays we had eight or ten of the team leaders at the table!  They were very committed and very faithful!  They were the ones who - with the help of God’s Spirit – grew the church!  And God blessed our efforts!  Within a short time, we were seeing over two hundred in worship and meeting in two services.

After we established our mission, I embarked on a preaching mission that lasted for three years:

2008 – Getting and Staying Connected to God!

2009 – Getting and Staying Connected to Other Believers!

2010 – Getting Connected to Our World in Service!

We [Rhoda Swartz] began teaching Financial Peace University regularly and gradually accrued a savings of three months (as a church) to bring us in line with Dave Ramsay’s teaching. 

A CHILDREN’S SERMON

I strongly believed that children should periodically be involved in adult worship.  So the last Sunday of every month we kept them in the pews for the whole worship service.  Our children’s workers passed out children’s bulletins to keep them busy when I stepped up to preach.  I also usually had a ‘Children’s Sermon’ on those Sundays targeted toward them. 

I often used an object lesson to get the message across. 

Debbie had improvised a special, home-made tool that she used to clean out our ductwork at the parsonage.  It was a brush that she had fastened onto the end of a stick.  I often teased her about it, but she continued using it anyway.

One Sunday, for the children’s sermon, I pulled her home-made tool out of my mystery bag.  I heard Debbie’s audible gasp when I did so.  I proudly held up her tool and asked the children (gathered down front) “What do you think this is?”  Debbie immediately answered (quite loudly) “A stick to use to beat your husband!” 

Everyone lost it!  I think I finished the children’s sermon – but I doubt it if they learned anything that morning! 

Somewhere along the way, I received a letter from our World Missions Department asking me to select a group in our church to pray for a person or couple to accept the call to missions’ work.  I chose our Ministry Council.  For the next two years, we ended EVERY Ministry Council meeting by making a circle and asking God to call out someone (or a couple) from our congregation to serve His purposes on the mission field. 

After two years of prayer, Corey and Connie Persing asked if they could speak to Debbie and me after church one Wednesday night.  [They were part of the founding family of our church many years earlier.]  They met with us in our home’s family room and told us that they might be God’s answer to our prayers!!!!!!

Corey was a math teacher at a local Catholic school and Connie was a homemaker.  After opening communications with our World Missions Department, it was decided that they should go to Thailand for about two weeks to see how they liked it.  Our church paid their full way for this adventure.  They were thrilled! 

They fully enjoyed their exposure to the Thai people and began making preparations to be intern missionaries for a year, teaching in an international school.  Our church again made a massive financial commitment to getting them through this first ‘test’ year.  They then began raising support from other churches and conferences and God opened wonderful doors of support for them to eventually leave the school and be full-time missionaries.  Today, Corey and Connie continue to serve in Chiang Mai, Thailand where they participate in supporting our International Child Care Ministries.  Corey travels to numerous countries training pastors and overseeing their ministries.  They have become an integral part of Free Methodist World Missions!  PTL!!!!!!!!!

So many lives were transformed at Free Methodist Community Church!  I will be forever grateful for the grace that God showed through our ministry.  We had a rough start, but the rest of our nine years in New Middletown were largely without conflict or tension!  God enabled us to work together to build His Kingdom! 

My Biggest Faux Paus

I can’t remember the specific date, but it was around Easter.  I had worked hard on my message and the PowerPoint to accompany it.  I do recall that Travis and Troy were home.  Worship at FMCC was always rich and wonderful.  We had two excellent worship teams that led very effectively.  One of my approaches to ministry was to try to stay off the platform until time to preach.  I wanted people to know that when I came to the pulpit, they would receive the Word of God.  I took my role very seriously.

This particular Sunday, I started into my message with authority and confidence.  However, about half-way through the message, I could tell that I was losing people.  I have a personal rule:  Never look at the PowerPoint!  I figured that if there was a problem with the PowerPoint, our team would get it resolved as quickly as possible. 

Then, I noticed (our son) Travis laughing.  He made no attempt to conceal his hysterics.  I could see that (our other son) Troy and his cousin, Marshall were at least trying to restrain themselves.  Meanwhile others looked uncomfortable…  I tried to take authority by raising my voice.  The distraction continued.  For a good ten minutes, I struggled.  Then, gradually, whatever it was subsided and I was able to finish the message. 

The worship team came up and helped close the service and we had a brief break before doing it all over again. 

You guessed it.  The exact same thing happened in the second service.  Fortunately, this time, Travis wasn’t there.  But the awkwardness and complete distraction were there.  I struggled.  I had worked so hard on this message and it was important to me to get it right – but I just lost almost everybody right in the middle for about ten minutes. 

When the service ended, a man I respected greeted me in the foyer with the question, “Why did you have a dog’s butt on the screen?”  I didn’t know if he was making some strange attempt at a joke or if he just had a twisted sense of humor.  I had no idea what he meant.  He didn’t seem angry or even amused;  he seemed genuine. 

Eventually, I discovered that a picture I had on screen of Jesus with His arms outstretched, was actually the picture of a dog’s butt!  I had no idea.  I had selected the picture as a small thumbprint picture from Google.  However, I had projected it 8’x8’ on our front wall! 

Interestingly, some people – like me – only saw Jesus.  However, others only saw a dog’s butt!  Some people were amused.  Others were ANGRY and offended! 


Here’s the real clincher!  My wife was in the first service!  Several key staff members were in the first service – including my sister-in-law, Laurie Mahosky!!!!!   No one said anything to me between the services!!!!!!   The second service is the larger of the two services – we could have averted repeating the offense – but no one spoke up!  😳

Here’s the picture – you be the judge:

 

It may be unfair, but I must mention a few key leaders, hoping I don’t slight anyone:

§  Linda Savaet became far more than a secretary!  She was much more of a personal assistant.  She worked hard in youth ministries, kept me organized, established her own counseling ministry, and became a significant influencer for Jesus!

§  Justin Sargent did go to Teen Mania!  Then he came home and rolled up his sleeves to become a major influencer in our church.  His creative skills, musical ability, consummate energy helped us move forward!  For a brief time, he served as my associate pastor.  I wish we could have kept him in that role!

§  He eventually married Lis VanArsdale.  Liz was a shy, young lady upon my arrival.  The congregation had elected her as a reserve delegate, so they had seen her potential.  It took a lot of time and investment, but she gradually emerged from her shell and became a confident team leader in our children’s department.

§  Bill Greene was a member of our congregation who helped set up and significantly improve our sound system and PowerPoint capabilities.  He eventually stepped away from this responsibility and others took over, but his hours of re-wiring and investment will never be forgotten by me!  He put together several CD packets of my messages – for which I am very grateful!  Aside from that, he was a wise man who encouraged me many times!

§  Rhoda Swartz was a natural team leader.  She spoiled most of us (and her team) with her delicious food treats!  She opened her home to meetings and parties.  She led our HOPE Team with passion and compassion!  I pointed many of our newer team leaders to her leadership as an example!

§  Dave Sargent was a quiet, often over-looked member of our congregation (Justin’s father).  He had amazing ability to pull a group of musicians together for special presentations.  His own guitar skills were also a continual blessing to our worship team!  He was not always highly regarded in our congregation, but I always saw his contributions and appreciated them.

§  Mary Ann Sargent was Justin’s mom and she learned to play the bass guitar so she could contribute to our worship team’s efforts.  But her main gift was in the area of decorating!  Every Christmas and Easter she would spend countless hours decorating our sanctuary in ways that were mesmerizing!  She had awesome gifts and dedicated them to God – and it blessed us all!

§  Laurie Mahosky is my wife’s sister.  She was paid staff for several years and blessed us with her leadership skills.  She oversaw our NIGHT OF JOY for several years.  It was a Christmas celebration that included a full drama, special music, skits, comedy, etc..  It took a massive investment on her part and they always turned out to be spectacular.  Her husband, Charlie, has crazy guitar skills and blessed us for years by being part of our worship team! 

§  Sarah Janutolo (who died in 2019) was our treasurer at FMCC – actually for fifty years!  She was one of the easiest treasurers I’ve had the privilege of working with. She stretched as we grew and cooperated with me in growing and investing in our staff!  Although she never got us on computer, she was faithful and had the highest integrity in the way she managed the church’s finances!

§  There are others that I should speak of:  Sam Sargent who led our worship team for a number of years, Holly Swartz who also led our worship team and sang specials, Aaron Norling who faithfully manned our sound booth, Bob VanArsdale who taught classes and opened our worship almost every Sunday, Zonda Haase who trained up prayer warriors in our children’s department, Ginny Gerner who worked faithfully in our kids ministry, Bill Brandt our faithful custodian, and so many others….including the leaders of seven ‘Connection Groups’ that were consistently meeting at least once a month! 

Are you getting the picture?  It was a TEAM effort!  J

I recently came across a Facebook post I made on May 30, 2012, just before we moved:

Had another 'last' yesterday. My last meeting with the FMCC Team Leaders. What an amazing group of people! They're the ones who make EVERYTHING happen at our church! They lead teams that make a difference! It's been such a joy working with these folks. I'll truly miss them:

Linda Savaet                                  Pastor's Assistant and Pastoral Team
Justin Sargent                                Associate Pastor and Pastoral Team
Liz Sargent                                    Special Events Coordinator and Pastoral Team
Laurie Mahosky                            Worship Coordinator and Pastoral Team
Karen Sullivan                              Prayer Team Leader
Sarah Janutolo                              Treasurer/Finance Team Leader
April Jacobsen                              Preschool Director/Children's Ministry Team
Debbie VanArsdale                       Nursery Director/Children's Ministry Team
Zonda Haase                                 Missions Team Leader/Children's Ministry Team
Rhoda Swartz                               HOPE Ministry Team Leader
Debbie Haire/Alex Domineck      Holy Grounds Cafe Team Leaders
Sam Sargent                                 Worship Leader/Worship Team Leader
Sue Wiley                                     Greeter Ministry Team Leader
Dennis Mansfield                         Buildings and Property Team Leader
Brady Sullivan                              Audio/Visual Team Co-Leader

For about five years, we put together Christmas ‘Night of Joy’ programs that involved all age groups and fully costumed plays.  I wrote several of the plays and we bought two:

“The Great Manger Mystery”

    Sheep – Mary Ann Sargent,             Donkey – Josh Westfall
    Ox – Corey Persing                          Chicken – Laurie Mahosky
    Camel – Lee Wiley                           Joseph – Justin Sargent
    Mary – Liz Sargent                           Shepherds – Ryan Sargent/John Chapman
    Angel – Ginny Bredl                         Magi – Bill Brandt, Debbie Haire, Rhoda Swartz

“The Wise Sisters”*  [Karen Sullivan, Connie Griffith, and Linda Stahlman]

They were three homeless women who stumbled onto the truth!

“Dorothy and Her Friends meet the King!”* 

[Laurie Mahosky, Marshall Mahosky, Sam Sargent, and Paul Savaet]

“The Tale of Three Trees”*  [Debbie Haire, Corey Persing, Valerie Ware]

“Blind Bartemaus”  [Marshall Mahosky]

  Written or adapted by Hal

These events took months of planning!  Laurie Mahosky took the plays that I had written and edited the script.  Then she worked with the players to develop a fun-oriented presentation of the Gospel!   Her commitment was HUGE!  Many other worked HARD to get the youth and children’s parts of the program ready.  Mary Ann Sargent cooperated by decorating the sanctuary to suit our needs.  It was an amazing pulling together by a large group of people to create a wonderful evening of music, drama, humor and fun as we celebrated the birth of our Savior!  Many made commitments to Christ at the conclusion of these special nights (one year there were seventeen commitments)!  We held them the first Sunday evening of December – which crunched our Thanksgiving a bit, but then gave us freedom throughout December! 

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After preaching on “Getting Connected to Our World Through Service” for a whole year, I used the next two summers to preach about the Great Commission – specifically, ‘Friendship Evangelism’.  I emphasized evangelism among our people with amazing results.  I strongly encouraged people to be courageous and lead family and friends to Christ.  I handed out cards, prayers, and other prompts to encourage people to follow through.  I created a ‘Champions’ poster on my door and added anyone’s name who led someone to Christ.  Eventually I had over twenty ‘Champions’!!!!

Ø  One woman led her aged, great aunt to faith in Christ!

Ø  Two women led their children into a relationship with Jesus.

Ø  One man reconciled with his hospitalized brother, gave him a Bible and led him to Christ!

Ø  Another woman led two co-workers in the sinner’s prayer.

I had Harold Ewing (a skilled woodworker and one of my favorite people) make a tall candleholder for our sanctuary.  I bought a large candle for it and placed them at the front of our sanctuary.  We called it our ‘Salvation Candle’.  I promised that we would light it on any Sunday when there had been a salvation as a result of someone in our congregation.  We lighted it a lot!  People would come in the front door and slip to the sanctuary to see if it was lit!  It became a powerful symbol of our effectiveness for Christ and His Kingdom! 

During these years, our growth in new converts and membership caught the attention of our denomination!  Three years we were recognized as a 'Multiplying Church'!  This meant that Debbie and I were invited to a special 'Multiplying Conference' where we were exposed to speakers who were recruited to equip us to keep our churches growing and multiplying!  

Twice, we made trips to Orlando, Florida, to be involved in these multi-day conferences.  We skipped the third - which was scheduled for the west coast - because of the expense it would have incurred on our congregation!  This was one of the wisest incentives I've seen the Free Methodist Church develop and maintain!  Each trip was rewarding, equipping and motivating! 

As a result, I began thinking more and more about my own personal impact on the world.  I began to realize that things hadn’t worked out quite the way I’d expected them to when I answered the call to ministry many years earlier.   I had hoped to make an impact on the world for Jesus, but the pastoral ministry tends to surround you with Christian people.  I carried this concern with me into my prayer times.

I increasingly began to long for an opportunity to be surrounded by lost people!  I started to realize that I’d never personally responded to the Great Commission;  I had not gone into the world to make disciples!  I grew more and more discontent.

Here I was, leading a growing church, yet feeling very discontent.  Toward the end of 2011, this discontent began to turn into a burden.  The Ministry Council (Leadership Team) had flatly refused a building project I had envisioned; I viewed it as a lack of faith in God’s ability to provide for our needs and vision.  It discouraged me.  I started exploring possibilities for going to another country to serve the Lord.  One day I was reading our denominational magazine and came across a full-page advertisement for teaching English in China.  I ran to Debbie and asked her if she wanted to go to China and teach English for a year – “They’ll pay us to do it!”  Her response:  “No way!”  Many times after that I brought similar ads to her again and again asking, “How about now?”  I got a consistent, “No.” 

When 2012 arrived, so did my forms from my superintendent regarding my next year’s appointment. I was in turmoil.  I turned the heat up on Debbie, telling her that I really wanted to do this!  We grew distant from one another as a result. 

Finally, as my deadline approached in February, I made a date to take her to lunch in Warren, OH, where I knew we wouldn’t be interrupted.  As we ate, I told her that I was going to turn my form in indicating that I would not be available for an appointment in 2012, and that I was going to begin to pursue an organization that could help us get to China.  She burst into tears!  She cried, “I don’t want to go to China!  I don’t want to go anywhere!  I like my life the way it is!”  My heart was wrenched.

I calmed her and said, “Okay.  It’s over.  You will never hear me use the word ‘China’ again.  Let’s eat.”  She immediately calmed down and we enjoyed our meal.  In my mind, it was a ‘done deal’. 

Early the next morning (around 5:30 AM), she entered my home study – this was VERY unusual; she had never been in my study at 5:30 AM!!!!!   She sat down and said, “I’ve had a change of heart…”  I interrupted her by holding up my hand.  “No!  We can’t do this!  You need to talk with someone, but not me.”  She tried to speak again, and I stopped her again.  “You need to talk with one of your sisters or one of your friends, but you can’t talk with me about this.”  And with that she left.

She did talk with her sister, Laurie, that day.  The next morning she came into my study again.  “I’ve talked with Laurie and now I need to talk with you.  After our lunch, I was reading my Bible and God took me to scriptures that have changed my heart.  The clincher was when I read these words from I Peter 3:5, ‘For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.  They were submissive to their own husbands…’  I want you to know that God has changed my heart.”  Then, with tears in her eyes, she said, “I want to go to China!”